Your love life has a pattern.
Why do you keep meeting non-committal, emotionally unavailable, or just plain meh men? You’re not crazy—there’s a reason. And this 30-question Dating Pattern Diagnostic is going to spell it out for you
Hey there! I’m Judith. I help Catholic women do the work to start dating strategically, and meet godly, masculine men who are ready to lead, love, and commit.
Here's a little about me:
🍽️ Favorite Food: If I could live off one thing forever, it’d be steamed chicken dumplings
🎭 Personality type: I‘m an INFJ with a melancholic & choleric temperament—so basically, I feel everything deeply but also have a strategic game plan for everything.
😇 Saint Besties: St. Therese for “be kind” St Joan of Arc for “have courage”
🎶 Vibe Check: Somewhere between a deep theology podcast and a Jane Austen novel.
🔍 Secret character flaw: reads too many psychology articles.
I've always been a hopeless romantic. Dating
since I was 15, Taylor Swift practically wrote the soundtrack to my teenage dating life.
I gave too much. I ignored red flags. I attracted emotionally unavailable men who left me questioning my worth. Every time I tried to define the relationship (DTR), I ended up heartbroken. It felt like no matter what I did, I was always “too much” or “not enough.”
And the worst part? I felt alone in it.
While friends were getting engaged, I was stuck replaying the same painful patterns. The non-Catholic girls outside my circle didn’t get it—they thought I was just being too picky. And deep down, I started wondering:
“Is it me?”
“Am I expecting too much?”
“Does God even want marriage for me?”
Then one day it dawned on me… I had two major problems in the dating zone
One, I wasn’t doing dating right. Falling too fast, not having standards, not seeing red flags, not knowing what I wanted in a man… all that jazz
Two: BAGGAGE. I had so much baggage from the past that I was carrying- wounds, trauma, big, unprocessed feelings. I had become a master at bringing my wounds and past into the newest dating relationship I found, and hoped that this new guy would somehow solve it.
I’m willing to bet on what I teach, because I’ve seen it happen in my own life. I went from chronically overthinking, heartbroken at 2 am and wondering the classic “why does nobody want me?”
To now dating a man who:
- 💒Prays with me and for me everyday
- 💎Communicates and pursues me intentionally & boldly
- 🌸Plans dates & brings flowers
- ❤️Makes an effort to understand me
- 💪Works hard so he can build a life for us
It's possible, but it takes work.
Instead of just “trying harder,” I had to change my entire approach. I had to get over my sweet victimized self and take responsibility for my wounds, and the mess it was causing. I had to bring my anger, shame and pride to Jesus and let him heal it. I had to latch onto the vision He had, and give up my own ideas. I had to take my thoughts captive to Christ and do things that felt uncomfortable. For the first time- I started walking by faith, not sight.
Nobody talks about this work because it is deep and real and raw
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Framework
Most dating advice either ignores faith or skips over the deeper work needed to truly align with God’s best.
This framework is built on three essential pillars that no one else is teaching at this level:
💔 Healing & Inner Work
Before you attract the right man, you need to rewire the subconscious patterns that have kept you in cycles of heartbreak. Using faith-based psychology and trauma healing, we’ll break those patterns—so you never attract the wrong man again.
🎯 Dating Strategy &
the Feminine Genius
Men do think differently, and dating does require strategy. You’ll learn how to show up as the most confident, magnetic version of yourself and naturally draw in a godly, masculine man who leads, pursues, and cherishes you.
💒 Discernment & Relationship Preparation
Dating is more than just attraction. I’ll teach you how to identify real compatibility, set high standards without pushing men away, and prepare for a lasting, Holy Spirit-led relationship that leads to marriage.
if you're done with dead-end dating...
I’ve got you.
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